HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION
As humans beings in this world today,we are expected to form relationships and interact with other individuals,both male and female .
Every relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. Part of what defines a healthy relationship is sharing a common goal for exactly what you want the relationship to be and where you want it to go.
Relationships need a number of factors to grow and can be quite complicated for many people. Relationships can be in the forms of;
•Marriages
•Friendship
•Acquaintances
•Colleagues at work etc .
A friend is someone that you share close affection with. You share some common beliefs and values with friends. Friends can be in person or online, your next door neighbor friend or a friend 1,000 miles away. Often, a friend is someone you trust or enjoy being around.
But what happens when such individual betrays or hurts you in a cruel way ?
Often times as individuals,we all have faced one form of rejection or another from our loved ones or the friends we loved and cherished so much.
What went wrong ?,you may ask?
Did i do something wrong?Did i say something wrong .We often ask these likely questions and sometimes we do not get these answers .
We are thrown into an abysss of pain ,rejection,depression and anguish.
Trust is the foundation of relationships because it allows you to be vulnerable and open up to the person without having to defensively protect yourself,” says Romanoff.
But what happens when such individual rejects or humiliates you or break your heart like in a romantic relationship between a male and female gender .
Most times ,we experience what i am going to explain here called HEARTBREAK OR REJECTION.
When you’re deep in the mire of heartbreak, chances are that you feel pain somewhere in your body—probably in your chest or stomach. Some people describe it as a dull ache, others as piercing, while still others experience it as a crushing sensation. The pain can last for a few seconds and then subside, or it can be chronic, hanging over your days and depleting you like just like the pain, say, of a back injury or a migraine.
Example was when i lost my mother to sickness ,few years ago,i felt devastated,heartbroken and depressed, to be honest,i felt pain for a long period of time maybe because she died when i needed her the most.
We all have been there,if i am to say your mind it is not a pleasant feeling to have .Sometimes people resort to taking hard drugs or alcohol .Sometimes others slip into depression,most times,people commit suicide because they couldn't bear it any longer .
Our friends or our family members may have wounded us with their kisses of betrayal and we are left to wallow or walk in the garden alone .
A survey was carried out on one of the most torturous feeling in the world ,
On a scale of 1 to torturous, getting your heart broken is a solid “absolutely awful.” Most of us have been there at some point, left wondering how to get over a broken heart.
While there’s no surefire way to avoid heartbreak ,here is a way through it—even if, at the moment, you truly believe you’ll never be happy again. Here, i will be sharing some advice on how to get over a broken heart.
What to do/Tips to help you
•Allow yourself to feel your feelings.
When somebody breaks up with you or you have been hurt or betrayed , you're going to feel a flood of emotions.Its OK to feel this way .Don't panic,its normal but do not
prolong it.
After all, your feelings are there for a reason—they can help you move through difficult experiences, but only if you release them.
You can cry,scream,or write in your journal like me ,whichever way you think is convenient to let out that feeling.
•Cutting off all contact in the beginning is healthy.
Every time you talk to them, you open up another energy tie between you, and your goal is to break those energetic ties, not to keep creating them.A space of three months is advisable.
•Seek help or Find a support system.
Call two or three people you really care about and let them know what you’re going through, “A lot of people love you and they want to support you, but often they don't know how because you're not telling them.”
•Exercise.
Breaking a sweat by jogging or walking may be the last thing you want to do when you’re wallowing, but trust: It can help.
•FORGIVE.As you try to slowly accept the break-up or hurt , try to forgive. Whether you’ve been cheated on or left hanging on a thread, be the bigger person and try to forgive.
If you’re the one at fault for the end of your relationship, forgive yourself, too. When you learn to truly forgive, the burden immediately becomes lighter. You may never forget that part of your life, but forgiveness will at least set you free from lingering anger, resentment, or guilt.
If you feel that you still feel these pains after some time,please seek help outside.
•Last but not the least ,Talk to God to help you overcome that feeling and learn to move on in life.Also pray for such individual who hurt or betrayed you,that he will find peace just as you seek your happiness and peace .
To sum it all,when i lost my mother,i sought help from my family members and friends;and i also consoled myself that everything happens for a reason .And i also channel myself into something useful like writing and reading.
I distracted myself and got busy .
You too can !! I hope after reading this blog post ,you will decide to let go of your pain like me .
Thank you for reading,i hope to see your comments and questions if any .
#faithsophia
#rejection
#overcomingheartbreak .